Like a 15 yo boy

Have you been to Tokyo Joe’s in Preston?

It’s the BEST nightclub in the world. Resplendent with sticky patterned carpets, a dance floor with 150 exits so you can NEVER find your mates.

AND an area down by the loos on the bottom floor, just to the left.

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Yep, I’m going to talk about the snogging area.

The place to go, when you want to REALLY SNOG someone’s face off (and maybe a tad of inappropriate groping too). It’s darker down there, and you’ll only BE there if you’re snogging. It’s not near the bar selling bacardi breezers or moscow mule. There’s no dancing there.

If you know about this. You’ll probably remember the flush. The excitement. The THRILL of ‘omg they’re there!’

And you’ll probably remember the tragedy of seeing them there, with someone else. Oh god, the heartbreak – it was physical. With HER?? WAAAH. But I thought they liked ME? Sob. 

The week later, with someone else. 

And someone else, probably the same night.

Because, let’s be real. 15 year old boys have a very VERY clear agenda. It wasn’t personal. It was their hormones. 

I’m afraid Toks is no longer there (had a rebrand in the 00s and frankly, lost all it’s appeal). And I KNOW from the survey I ran a while back, that s*x drive, is not really the vibe anymore for SO. MANY. OF. YOU. I asked, is an enjoyable s*x life important This is what you said. * Yes and i would like this to improve but it is difficult to nail down whether the problem is peri menopause or having young children! * Yes, but honestly, I just dont have the enrrgy or inclination most the time. * Yes, but it’s not the be all and end all. * Yes, usually although right now I don’t care! * What is this?? 🤣🤣 (although this is more down to having young children and being knackered) otherwise yes *I’m so totally not interested * I’ve never considered myself as being a sexual person as have never really had much enjoyment from it, but I’m now at the point where if I was told I could never have sex again I’d be fine with that. It causes lots of tension between me and my fiancé as he has a high sex drive. I find myself doing it but I never get in the zone and find it hard to not think about things like stuff on my to do list whilst in the moment. I wish it were different but I don’t know how.* In my forties yes which is when I started the menopause, constant bleeding made it difficult * It used to be but not sure now * It was! pre-kids and perimenopause! I’ve forgotten what an enjoyable sex life is like! * It’s a nice to have.* It’s not the highest priority but it is important *No* No* No* No* No* No* No* No* No sex at moment as no partner. *No s3x drive at all* Nope *Not really *Not really  *Not really  *Not right now *Not so much any more

I mean, utterly heartbreaking.

To know that libido’s are on the floor. In the bin even.

I know countless friends who’ve declared it a NO. GO. ZONE.

In their 40s. 🙁

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Now, let me tell you something.

The most beautiful side effect my clients have named, is a resurgence of libido.

An appetite if you will.

A throwback thursday to the energy of Adam Turner in Tokyo Joes 1995.

A welcome cherry on the top of the s*x cake.

No longer ‘something to be scheduled’ 

(my husband used to abide by the rule, that it had to be before 10pm otherwise it wasn’t ever gonna happen – TMI? ah well, written it now).

Not something to ‘put up with’.

An ACTIVE PARTICIPANT.

An instigator.

Imagine that.

First name, you too could be Adam Turner.

(Does anyone actually know him? wonder how he’s doing).

Wanna know more?

Reply to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Love Louisa x

(PS in addition to the sec drive of Adam Turner, you’ll also develop the body confidence of Mel McAuley, who was the one everyone fancied, and she knew it, and fancied herself too. So there’s that as well)